Not Later
The life you’re waiting for is already in progress.
1 Story
We lost Rekha in 2016.
She was 36. Her son was 6.
That is the kind of sentence that doesn’t resolve. It just sits with you.
And yet, what she left did not end there.
❤️ Happy Birthday, Rekha. I still feel you here. ❤️
In this photo, Rekha is on the far left. That feels fitting, she was there at the beginning of so many meaningful moments and transitions in my life.
When I left New York in 2010 and first moved to New Mexico, I was in between versions of myself. Excited, uncertain, building something I couldn’t fully name yet.
Rekha gave me a card that I’ve carried, in different forms, ever since.
On the front was this quote from Alfred D’Souza:
“Happiness is a journey, not a destination. For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin, real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one.”
At the time, I received it as something beautiful.
Over the years, I realized it was instruction.
Rekha’s message met me in the moments when I was waiting.
Waiting for things to settle.
Waiting to feel ready.
Waiting to feel like I had arrived.
She had already named the truth I would spend years learning.
THIS is it.
Not later.
Not once everything makes sense.
Not once the obstacles clear.
This.
Life is not something you arrive at.
It is something you are already inside of.
That’s what Rekha understood.
And what she left behind.
1 Question
What are you waiting to begin that is already here?
1 Challenge
A few weeks ago, my son showed up to a trip with two left shoes.
My 5-year-old son wearing two left shoes on the streets of San Francisco, CA.
He had no frustration, no spiral. He shrugged, looked at his shoes, even after he kept falling repeatedly, and said, “Let’s buy new ones.”
Simple problem. Simple response. Move forward.
Take one area where you’ve been in “waiting mode.” Let’s call it catching the “two left shoes” moment this week.
Remove the condition.
Name the situation clearly, then decide your next move in one sentence.
And take it.
Three ⚡️ in 31 Seconds
⚡️ Most problems are smaller than the reaction we give them.
⚡️ Are we connected on TikTok? I’m over there creating ya’ll!
⚡️ The life you’re anticipating is already unfolding.
Forward this to someone who tends to overthink the small stuff.